After our latest trip to South Africa and Ethiopia, my husband and I have KIND OF been thinking of adoption. Kind of. Maybe. A little.
I read an article awhile back written by a child who was adopted who was against adoption (as it is run now) and I thought they had some very valid arguments. Then, while we were in South Africa, one of the women I met had a child whom she gave up for a time because she knew she couldn't take care of the child. I believe that she thought it was for awhile, until she could get back on her feet and the child was with a woman she trusted. Then, some people came to the woman and said that they wanted to adopt the child and had her sign some paperwork. The woman now wants her child back and we realized that the paperwork is probably illegal.
My fear of adoption is that I will be taking a child from a family that will eventually decide they want their child back. I've been e-mailing with Holt International and they said that all children in China are abandoned since you can't relinquish a child there and that China is on one end of the adoption spectrum and Ethiopia is on the other, where it's mainly children who have been relinquished and where you'd see the birth parents in court.
My fear is that I'm being selfish in taking this child away from its family, even if the family put them up for adoption.
Am I making sense? Does that even make sense or am I just a bit off balance?
I've been really rolling it over in my mind and in my heart and praying about it...but I think I just needed to write it down.